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Pros and Cons of Falling for the Guy Next Door

I’ve always been a sucker for a Guy Next Door romance, so it’s no surprise my young adult paranormal romance, The Third Kiss turned out to be one. Mind you, I’ve never fallen for a neighbor myself, but the concept is hugely appealing. It’s a trope that must appeal to others as well if the success of books such as Lola and the Boy Next Door by Stephanie Perkins, Obsidian by Jennifer L. Armentrout, and Slammed by Colleen Hoover are anything to go by. But I’m a realist, and as romantic as the idea sounds, having that one person you daydream about living so close can’t possibly be all unicorns and sunshine. So, in the interest of objectivity, and assuming your neighborly crush returns your feelings, let’s take a look at the pros and cons of falling for the guy or girl next door.


Pro: It’s convenient

Let’s face it: having the one that sets off your drool reflex live next door is super convenient. You can hop on over anytime to hang out, make out, or veg out. Your next hug, smooch, or conversation is only two minutes away. Excellent! Lead me down the garden path!


Con: It can be suffocating

They can hop on over anytime, too, and want to hang out, make out, and just…well tire you out. If you’re anything like me, you need some head space every now and then. Having your boyfriend or girlfriend show up unannounced all the time can become suffocating after a while.


Pro: Space is only one letterbox away

On the other hand, if you’ve had a fight, or you just can’t handle his offer of pizza for dinner for the third night in a row, your place is only a short walk away. See ya!


Con: It can lead to stalkerish behavior

Where’s he going? Who’s that girl he’s with? Didn’t he say he had to study?  If you’re on the suspicious or possessive side, it can be tempting to resort to stalkerish behavior, and most relationship experts will tell you that any kind of covert surveillance on your main squeeze is not exactly healthy for the relationship.

Pro: No parent meet-and-greet needed

They already know your parents and your parents know them, so that awkward meeting with the parentals does not need to happen. Phew!


Con: They might see you au-natural

With such close proximity, there’s a good chance that one day your next door hottie will catch you taking out the garbage in your Tinkerbell PJs, without make-up, and flashing a shocking case of bed-hair. And if Murphy’s Law is a thing, you’ll also step in dog poop in your desperate attempt to race back through the front door.


Pro: They might see you au-natural

And that’s a good thing! Because seeing you in your Tinkerbell PJs, no make-up, and bed-hair means they get to see the REAL you, not a constructed version you think the world needs to see. So wear Tinkerbell proudly!


Con: If things go pear-shaped, you’ll have to move

Well, maybe not move, but you’ll be in for a whole lot of awkward, no matter who called it quits.


Pro: Solid foundation of friendship

A guy/girl next door relationship is likely to be built on an existing friendship, which means it has more chance of lasting the distance. Maybe that’s why I was compelled to write a “falling for the guy/girl next door” story…because, really, we’re all in it for the happily ever after.


What are your guy/girl next door romance pros and cons?

9781640631540About The Third Kiss:

Love curses don’t exist. At least that’s what Jonas, master of the meaningless hookup, tells himself when a letter warns him he’s an Eros Guardian cursed to endure a test of true love or forever be alone. His levelheaded longtime friend Cora figures it’s a revenge prank by an ex. The way Jonas stamps each girlfriend with a weeklong use-by date, it serves him right.

But when an impulsive kiss between the two friends reveals potential for more, Cora becomes the target of the Groth Maar: demons sent to wipe out the Eros Guardian line. And suddenly the curse becomes dangerously real.

Breaking the curse means Jonas’s biggest challenge yet. Failure guarantees Cora’s death. But success may cost him his own life…and the loss of his carefully guarded heart to the one girl far too sensible to fall for him.

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About the author:

Kat Colmer is a Sydney-based Young and New Adult author who writes coming-of-age stories with humor and heart. The recipient of several writing awards, she has won the Romance Writers of Australia First Kiss contest, as well as the Romance Writers of America On the Far Side contest for her debut Young Adult Paranormal Romance.

Kat has a Master of Education in Teacher Librarianship and loves working with teens and young adults. When not writing, teaching, or reading the latest in YA fiction, Kat spends time with her husband and two children.

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