What is the first thing you think about when you hear Romance Novel? Let me guess, two people overcoming obstacles to find happily ever after. While that is true, in almost every one of my books you will find one other VERY important happily ever after relationship, and that is the relationship between girlfriends.
I almost always give my heroine a best friend, someone she can count on, someone to eat Chunky Monkey ice cream with when things aren’t going well, someone who will be there for the good times and bad. I love women relationships, and feel they are important in our real lives, which is why I always write them in to my stories.
While I want my main heroine to be likeable and relatable, I can make her best girlfriend the funny, outrageous one who guides the heroine and gives bad advice (you know, like go pick up that guy and do the nasty already, lol) Of course that advice really always turns out to be great for the heroine. I want the best friend to be honest, (she’s the one who is going to say yes, those pants DO make you look fat) loyal, and confident—in herself and in the heroine. I often get emails from readers asking if the best friend is getting her own story. Most times I don’t, but in my most recent release, Hand On serial, the best friend cracks me up and is screaming for her own happily ever after.
In my personal life, I don’t have many close girlfriends, but the ones I do have, well, we go WAY back to our university years, and I know I can count on them. I think it’s important to nurture and grow these relationships, and was once told that the older you get the more you need your girlfriends. I truly believe that, and recently watched it play out when an older lady I know lost her husband of over fifty years. Her lifetime friends, from different stages in her life, childhood, university, work, and retirement, surrounded her. They didn’t just provide casseroles during her time of need, they provided love, comfort, sympathy and compassion. You could feel it everywhere. But to have such great friends, one must also be a great friend. Clearly this lady had touched many lives, because the outpouring of support from her closet friends was unlike anything I’d ever seen.
Recently, an old childhood friend who I haven’t seen in a good thirty years reached out to me along with another friend (we were a tight trio back in the day) We all have crazy schedules but carved out time for a get together. What a day! We laughed, we cried, we reminisced and we shared stories of our lives, good and bad. The nicest things, it was like thirty years hadn’t even passed, and we picked right up where we left off. I talked to these girls almost daily now, a quick text, or a group Facebook message just to say hello.
Girlfriends are important in so many ways, and if I can give any advice to all you women reading this, don’t ever lose touch with your girls. Be sure to nurture the old relationships and take time to build new ones. We’re never too old for a new friend.
New York Times and USA Today bestselling author Cathryn Fox is a wife, mom, sister, daughter, and friend. She loves dogs, sunny weather, anything chocolate (she never says no to a brownie) pizza and red wine. Cathryn has two teenagers who keep her busy and a husband who is convinced he can turn her into a mixed martial arts fan. When not writing, Cathryn can be found laughing over lunch with friends, hanging out with her kids, or watching a big action flick with her husband.